Working in Hospice
By Rev Paul V. Scholl, C-GC, CHLC
Few hospice professionals of today ever said “Daddy,
I want to be a hospice worker when I grow up.” We wanted
to be doctors, teachers, firemen, policemen, dancers, baseball
players, etc. As hospice grows, and the general public learns
more about what hospice provides, perhaps those young teenagers
or children will be influenced by what they see and experience
and may someday want to follow in the footsteps of a caring
hospice nurse or case manager.
No one has ever said offering hospice care as a professional
would be easy. Yet, with the growing need for hospice care
in our aging society, it continues to attract professionals
who want to serve others in their most difficult times. Working
in hospice becomes a career choice, one that could be easily
side-stepped for fear of not wanting to face the obvious issues
that come with helping people through the end days of their
lives. If you wanted to avoid some of the deeper issues of
life, you would not choose this line of care.
One of the unwritten rules of serving the dying is knowing
“It’s not about you.” The professional must
check their personal agendas at the door before ever entering
into the sacred ground surrounding the next patient and family.
What is paramount is the proper care and handling of the raw
emotional experiences of the family unit. Each individual
has his or her very own sensitivities and reactions to every
step of the path that leads the patient to the moment of death.
Honoring each step of each individual within the family, while
holding a firm understanding of your own reactions to each
case, is what makes you the right caring professional sent
to help guide them.
Grieving for the patient begins with the first words out of
the doctor’s mouth, the words that hit the patient harder
than they’ve ever been hit before in their lives, that
they have a terminal illness. The car ride home is a blur,
the care plan is a blur, and every anxiety is another wave
of emotion battering what strength they have left. By the
time hospice arrives, a thousand waves have covered them and
their families. The strength of the hospice team offers them
the hope, care and guidance they need.
Working in the hospice care field has to come from the heart,
and be managed with a clear focus and understanding of one’s
personal belief system. It has been said that caring for others
at the end of their lives will challenge you to know who you
are, what you believe in, and to actively be an emissary for
love and compassion. It is through this quiet, caring and
stoic example of love and compassion that those facing the
end of life will find some peace and calm and reconciliation
on their path through death.
How we grieve with the patient and family, how we listen and
support them, how we guide and comfort them is a reflection
they will see for years to come. They may forget the names,
but they will never forget the care. Being an example of strength
and support, and of being fully human, will be the greatest
gift you could leave behind for those you’ve served,
or those who may follow.
Rev. Paul offers workshops on many subjects, including spiritual
boundaries, death and dying, meditation, and spiritual goal-setting.
Find out more at his website www.LovingOutLoud.com,
or call him at 916-773-7337.
